September 18th, 2018

// Living An Orgasmic Life – Book Release

Heal Your Relationship with Sex


This book explores how to: 


Overcome your discomfort: Living An Orgasmic Life is written for anyone who finds sex challenging or feels uncomfortable with their sex life. Women who are alienated from their erotic side due to sexual abuse or trauma will find healing balm in these pages. Women who can’t surrender into pleasure, can’t sustain intimacy, or want to reclaim and feel empowered in their sexuality will greatly benefit from this book.

Awaken your sexuality: Challenges with sexuality are all too common in our society and not frequently discussed in an open and thoughtful manner. In Living An Orgasmic Life, Xanet Pailet explores the many reasons that cause women to disconnect from their sexuality including: shame, body image issues, sexual abuse and trauma, physical wounding, and fears of intimacy. She teaches practical advice and tools to help women awaken to their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido.

Add sex back into your marriage: According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 20% of married couples are only having sex once a month―that’s considered a sexless marriage. And those numbers are likely significantly under-reported and do not account for the large number of women and men who stay in their marriage for other reasons (e.g. money, children) but have completely unsatisfying sex lives. Even so, the number of reported sexless marriages has quadrupled in the last 20 years. Living An Orgasmic Life is filled with lessons and practical exercises that can take your sex life from non-existent or mediocre to fulfilling on every level.


Living An Orgasmic Life is a must read if you desire a better relationship with your partner, juicier sex and more passion in your love life. After reading this book, you will learn:

  • Why it’s so hard to talk about sex in a world where everything is about sex
  • The #1 reason women lose their desire for sex and what to do about it
  • How sexual trauma can occur and how to heal it
  • Your sexual blueprint: what it is and how to read it
  • How attachment theory relates to your intimate life
  • What the journey to sexual healing looks like
  • How to find your path to pleasure
  • Awakening your body through somatic and hands-on healing
  • How to reignite your libido
  • The truth about your pleasure potential
  • What you can do to start living an orgasmic life


About the Author:

Xanet Pailet is a recovered New York City health care lawyer who lived in an unfilled marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full time intimacy coach, writer, blogger, and teacher. She works with individuals and couples to empower them as well as strengthen their relationship and intimacy skills. Through her work, and the many tools that she offers, she helps them transform their relationships and their lives. Xanet is a certified Intimacy Coach, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, and Tantra Educator. She teaches regularly at Good Vibrations in San Francisco and offers 1:1 coaching via Skype or in person in the Bay Area. She also offers online group coaching programs and speaks regularly at national and local conferences and events. She lives in beautiful and serene Marin County, CA.



“Xanet Pailet’s book offers a modern, refreshing insight into what all women should become aware of: that they are made for love. And that the art and cultivation of pleasure is the language of love. And that, if they don't learn it, and take the responsibility to teach it to their partners, the consciousness of the world will remain stagnant. Living an Orgasmic Life teaches us to become aware in love and to channel pleasure as a means of conscious awakening. There is no better mission. And this book will show you the way.”

―Margot Anand, World’s leading authority on Tantra and International Bestselling author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, The Art of Everyday Ecstasy, and Love, Sex and Awakening


"Xanet is a wise guide that you can trust to lead you the pleasurable path of erotic empowerment. She’s been there herself and offers you a practical map that you can follow to get to the land of loving yourself, shame-free sex and expanded outrageous orgasms! You deserve to feel this fantastic!"
-Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, LMT. Wholistic Sexuality Teacher, award-winning author of Women's Anatomy of Arousal and Succulent SexCraft


“Through her own sexual healing journey and those of others, author and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet takes us back to a place where we can all develop the courage to reclaim our sexual desires. Living an Orgasmic Life is bound to become a go-to book for therapists, healers and for all of us.”
―Louann Brizendine, MD, New York Times Best Selling Author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain.

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