St. Jude psychologists release tips for helping people through their first COVID-19 holiday season  Drawing on years of guiding grieving families through difficult holidays, St. Jude psychologists offer expert advice to help MEMPHIS, TENN. – With the first COVID-19 holiday season upon us, many Americans are anticipating the difficult challenge of how to celebrate this year. To help families across the country, the team of psychologists at St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, including St. Jude Psychology Clinical Director Niki Jurbergs, PhD, along with her colleague Megan Wilkins, PhD, have released the following tips for the public to stay healthy both mentally and emotionally, as well as physically during this holiday season.  “In my work with children with cancer, I have, indeed, watched families face holidays while separated from one another and while enduring unthinkable stress and grief,” said Clinical Director Niki Jurbergs, PhD., who draws on years of helping grieving families through difficult holiday seasons after the loss of a child or a life-changing cancer diagnosis. “Families facing the upcoming holidays should feel empowered to do what feels most comfortable given the risks and restrictions of the current pandemic.  We should all be working to adjust our expectations and prepare for things to be different this year, and in many cases, difficult as well.” In addition to the tips outlined below, St. Jude psychologists are available for interviews to discuss mental health narratives around this upcoming COVID-19 holiday season, including for example:  How can we broach conversations with family to stay safe this upcoming holiday season?Physical health has been a huge focus during the COVID-19 pandemic, but how important is mental and emotional health?What can we all learn about surviving difficult holidays given their experiences working with children with cancer and family caregivers?  St. Jude Psychologists 6 Tips for Surviving the COVID Holidays Perform a mental health check - It is critically important, especially given mounting “pandemic fatigue,” that we attend to our own mental health.  We must first take stock of our own mental health and assure we are not trying to “pour from an empty cup.”  It is imperative that parents take time for care of themselves, including spending time outside, seeking social support and engaging in relaxing activities. Give yourself grace to feel disappointment and upset about this highly anxious and uncertain time.Feel empowered to do what feels comfortable – In our work with families of children with cancer, we stress the importance of facing the upcoming holidays feeling empowered to do what feels most comfortable given the risks and restrictions of their child’s diagnosis.  This is a time for all of us to take this lesson to heart and work to adjust our expectations and prepare for things to be different this year, and in many cases, difficult as well.  It can help to talk about these losses, sharing what we are missing most this holiday season.Take time to consider what is meaningful to you around the holidays – Take time to consider what is meaningful to you around the holidays. Is it the special recipe for a dish your grandmother used to make? Is it playing games with family members? Watching a game with friends? What parts of these meaningful pieces of the holidays can still happen in a way you feel comfortable with?  Rather than looking forward to our typical parties and family meals, we might choose to focus on the gift of health we give when we make the sacrifice of honoring our families’ and loved ones’ health and safety by staying home.  Make the holidays special from afar - Planning surprises such as cards or gifts delivered in the mail lets your loved ones know you’re with them in spirit, if not in body.  Recognizing that many of us are tired of looking at screens, virtual games and activities such as scavenger hunts or singing favorite holiday songs may be more engaging than simply video chatting. Families who remain distanced this season may enjoy developing new traditions, such as trying new recipes or playing new games with those they share a household with that might be incorporated into future holidays when they can safely be together again.  Families may choose to reflect on what they are thankful for by coming together to make donations to charities and causes that are meaningful to them.  Protect your elderly loved ones from loneliness and isolation - In many cases, seniors experience a heightened sense of loss related to pandemic restrictions. These elderly individuals express the feeling that their time is short, and that time is being stolen from them.  Some express a willingness to accept the risk of potential virus infection to spend time with family because they are more fearful of dying of old age than they are of dying of COVID-19.  Reaching out to those at highest risk for loneliness is more important than ever.  Phone calls, video chats, cards, drive-by parades and even socially distanced outdoor visits can help them feel connected and reassure them that you are thinking of them.For the 250,000 Americans grieving the loss of a loved one from COVID-19, make the decision about the holidays that feels right for you – Celebrating holidays for the first time without a loved one is unspeakably difficult. For these families, not only has this pandemic taken the life of a loved one, the threat remains.  That is, not only are they grieving, they are continuing to face the virus and its ongoing impact on a daily basis.  These families should not feel obligated to engage in holiday traditions as they have in the past.  In fact, it might feel better for some to not celebrate at all this year.  Conversely, some families may choose to find special ways to honor and include the memory of their lost loved one. As with all family decisions, this one is highly personal.